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    September 05

    The Cat Years

    The Cat Years

    I just realized that while children are dogs - loyal and affectionate - teenagers are cats. It's so easy to be a dog owner. You feed it, train it, boss it around. It puts its head on your knees and gazes at you as if you were a Rembrandt painting. It bounds indoors with enthusiasm when you call it.

    Then around age 13 your adorable little puppy turns into a big old cat. When you tell it to come inside it looks amazed, as if wondering who died and made you emperor. Instead of dogging your footsteps, it disappears. You won't see it again until it gets hungry - then it pauses on its sprint through the kitchen to turn its nose up at whatever you're serving.

    When you reach out to ruffle its head, in that old affectionate gesture, it twists away from you, then gives you a blank stare as if trying to remember where it has seen you before.

    You, not realizing that the dog is now a cat, think something must be desperately wrong with it. It seems so antisocial, so distant, sort of depressed. It won't go on family outings.

    Since you're the one who raised it, taught it to fetch and stay and sit on command, you assume that you did something wrong. Flooded with guilt and fear, you redouble your efforts to make your pet behave. Only now you're dealing with a cat, so everything that worked before now produces the opposite of the desired result. Call it, and it runs away. Tell it to sit, and it jumps on the counter. The more you go toward it wringing your hands, the more it moves away.

    Instead of continuing to act like a dog owner, you have to learn to behave like a cat owner. Put a dish of food near the door, and let it come to you. But remember that a cat needs your help and affection too. Sit still and it will come, seeking the warm, comfortable lap it has not entirely forgotten. Be there to open the door for it.

    One day, your grown up child will walk into the kitchen, give you a big kiss and say, "You've been on your feet all day. Let me get those dishes for you."

    Then you'll realize your cat is a dog again.

    August 04

    Where do pets come from?

    A newly discovered chapter in the Book of Genesis has
    provided the answer to "Where do pets come from?" Dog face Cat face
     
    Adam and Eve said, "Lord, when we were in the garden, you walked with us every day. Now we do not see you any more. We are lonesome here, and it is difficult for us to remember how much you love us."  Red heart
     
    And God said, I will create a companion for you that will be with you and who will be a reflection of my love for you, so that you will love me even when you cannot see me. Regardless of how selfish or childish or unlovable you may be, this new companion will accept you as you are and will love you as I do, in spite of yourselves."
     
    And God created a new animal to be a companion for Adam and Eve.  And it was a good animal.  And God was pleased.  And the new animal was pleased to be with Adam and Eve and he wagged his tail.  And Adam said, "Lord, I have already named all the animals
    in the Kingdom and I cannot think of a name for this new animal." 
     Dog face
    And God said, " I have created this new animal to be a reflection of my love for you, his name will be a reflection of my own name, and you will call him DOG." 
     
    And Dog lived with Adam and Eve and was a companion to them
    and loved them. 

    And they were comforted. 

    And God was pleased. 
    And Dog was content and wagged his tail. 
     
    After a while, it came to pass that an angel came to the Lord and said, "Lord, Adam and Eve have become filled with pride. They strut and preen like peacocks and they believe they are worthy of adoration. Dog has indeed taught them that they are loved, but perhaps too well."
     
    And God said, I will create for them a companion who will be with them and who will see them as they are. The companion will remind them of their limitations, so they will know that they are not always worthy of adoration."
     
    And God created CAT to be a companion to Adam and Eve.  And Cat would not obey them. And when Adam and Eve gazed into Cat's eyes, they were reminded that they were not the supreme beings. 
     Cat face
    And Adam and Eve learned humility.
    And they were greatly improved.
    And God was pleased
    And Dog was happy.  Dog face
     
    And Cat didn't give a shit one way or the other. Cat face

    July 19

    Napa Valley Vacation 2008

    After a long 4th of July weekend at the Lake we baby gated the puppies in the kitchen, packed the boy off to camp and hopped a plane to California, just the hubby and myself. What a great idea that was! We arrived in Oakland, CA and discovered that Oakland is an ugly city so we quickly drove out of the city to Napa Valley. We stayed at a Bed and Breakfast that we found by chance on the Internet, 1801 first. It was right there in Napa Valley. It was a wonderful old home, upon arrival and stepping out of the car the fragrance of flowers filled the air, it was a perfect beginning to a celebration of our 20th year of marriage. If you ever go to Napa Valley, I would recommend a stay at this charming B&B. We were completely spoiled! We were greeted by Maggie with a small cheese and cracker hors d' oeuvres and a glass of sparkling wine from Chandon. I had requested a bottle of wine in our cottage for our arrival so they had set up a chilled bottle of Chardonnay from Cuvaison Winery along with some delicious Truffles made by their house chef. Every morning we would arrive in the main house for breakfast and were served a breadbasket with two choices of home made breads, croissants or small muffins, a fruit dish from smoothies to baked apples or fresh pears with vanilla sauce. The main courses were gourmet dishes prepared by their house chef and I can honestly say probably the best breakfasts I have ever had. In the evenings they would host a wine and hors d’ oeuvres hour and we would get together with the hostess and the other guest staying at the B&B. The hostess, Maggie and Tamara were very pleasant and always full of suggestions for tours and wineries or places to visit or eat. You felt as if you were staying at a friend’s home. We enjoyed the company of the other guests and we each shared our days adventures and able to get even more wonderful ideas for places to visit. Our first day we rented a Harley Davidson Road Glide motorcycle and ventured out on our own to discover the wine country. We began by traveling up the Silverado Trail. Our first winery was Duckhorn Winery. It was a pleasant vineyard with; you guessed it, Duck Décor. Our second winery was the Frank Family Vineyards and I was not impressed by this winery at all, it was very small, almost too small. There were two other groups of 4 each already at the very small tasting bar and so ourselves and the other group of 3 that arrived with us were not able to have time to discuss the wines with the pourers. Beringer Winery made up for the Frank Family Vineyards, truly people, Beringer does make other wines than White Zinfandel. Here we did a small three wine tasting paired with a small cheese board and enjoyed the company of some very nice people from Florida. After that we took a guided tour of the caves and did a tasting of Beringer’s reserve wines while seated in a room in the caves. The story of the room was that it was where the wine maker and his friends used for their private gambling; it was also a room they used in the movie A Walk In The Clouds. This was a nice seated tasting between the pourer and her assistant and only six guests. We not only tasted good wine but also got a lot of education about the process of making wine. They even did a barrel tasting for us so that we could taste the unblended version of wine. Beringer is a must visit. Our last wine tasting was none other than Chandon, a sparkling wine maker (by the way they make still wines as well, but we went for the sparkling experience). This winery has wonderful gardens filled with art by Richard Botto, you don’t know who Richard Botto is, and I didn’t either. His art is steel and rock, and it is wonderful! I posted a photo of myself sitting in one of my favorite creations, his rock mushrooms. The winery and the tasting room was filled with many other art pieces more on the abstract side, but I love that kind of art so it was a great place to have spent time. We really would have liked to spend more time at Beringer and Chandon to view their gardens, but it was very hot and being on the motorcycle as fun as it was it made us spend more time in the coolness of the caves and in the tasting room. That evening we enjoyed a very nice dress up dinner at Cole’s Chop House. It was our nice dinner out and it was delicious! Day two, after another gourmet breakfast, we headed to the coast, on the motorcycle. We arrived at Bodega Bay and went north from there to Goat Rock Beach (photos are included). From there we traveled along the Russian River and enjoyed lunch at a quaint little place called Cape Fear Restaurant. We spent some time hiking through the Armstrong Woods, looking at the Redwood Trees. After that we traveled back to our little cottage, home away from home. After the hors d’ oeuvres hour we had dinner at a hamburger place called Taylor’s Refresher. This is a great little place to eat the atmosphere is old drive in feel where you can get a burger and shake, or a burger and a glass of wine. Next door is the Oxbow market where they have lots of specialty shops for foods, and spices, cheese and wine. Day Three we used to visit a few more wineries. We started at Cuvaison for a quick cave tour and tasting; nothing close to the personal attention or friendly atmosphere we received from the pourer at Beringer. However the wine is wonderful and we purchased an artistic bottle of the Chardonnay. It will be hard to break this bottle open because of the artwork on the bottle, but the wine would be worth it. Second we debated on visiting Sterling Vineyards because we could see the building that is set atop a hill surrounded by the grape vines, but decided to check out the Castello Di Amorosa. The couple we tasted with at Beringer told us great things about this winery and so we were intrigued enough to search it out. The entrance isn’t much when you first turn in but as you move through the gates and around a corner and up a hill surrounded by grape vines you suddenly see the Castle, yes a full, fledged Castle. It is beautiful. We missed the tour and the next one would have caused us to miss our 3:00 appointment so we opted to do the Reserve Tasting. We did spend time walking around the castle and it is spectacular! It took the owner 4 years just to complete the underground tunnels and caves, it has a courtyard and one of the towers is eve made to appear as if the castle has damage from an attack, very medieval. We were suppose to be able to pick 5 wines each to taste, and the pourers ended up letting us taste every wine they had, which was about 20 wines. The tasting room was in a lower level room that was cool made entirely of bricks. The arches made the room. We spent a couple of hours here with very fun and personable pourers ending our stay with only 4 bottles of wine. From there we had to push it to make our appointment that Tamara from the B&B had pulled some strings to get us. The night before two other couples at the B&B had told us of their visit to Jessup Cellars and we asked Tamara to make us an appointment as well. This was our exclusive tasting and tour. Grant met us at the wine mixing room and walked us around the state of the art facility, where they store barrels, mix the wines and bottle them. We enjoyed this so much and ended up having the opportunity in meeting the wine maker Mark Jessup. We came away with a bottle of their premier wine Table for Four, Excellent red wine. The unfortunate part of that visit was Grant poured very full glasses of wine, not only one Merlot but two different years in order for us to taste the difference in the wines from year to year. Again this was a very educational and personal experience, but we ended our tour a little light headed to say the least. We left Napa Valley feeling revived and just as in love, if not more, as we were the day we were married 20 years ago. The motorcycle just made the trip so much more than it would have been in a car and the wine tasting was interesting and we discovered that we enjoy many different types of wine. And now we are home and the boy is back from camp, and the puppies have been released from the kitchen and our normal everyday life has resumed. So we are left with the photos of our trip to remind us of such a wonderful time. I hope you enjoy our photos!
    July 17

    A Prayer

    I would rather live my life as if there is a God, and die to find out there isn't, than to live my life as if there isn't and die to find out there is.
     
    'Lord, I love you and I need you, come into my heart, and bless me, my family, my home, my finances, and all of my friends. In Jesus' name, Amen.'

    St. Theresa's Prayer

    Saint Theresa's Prayer

     

    May today there be peace within.
    May you trust God that you are exactly where you are meant to be.
    May you not forget the infinite possibilities that are born of faith.
    May you use those gifts that you have received, and pass on the love that
    has been given to you.
    May you be confident knowing you are a child of God. Let this presence settle
    into your bones, and allow your soul the freedom to sing, dance, praise
    and love.
    It is there for each and every one of us.
    June 20

    Every Woman Should...

    EVERY WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ...
    enough money within her control to move out and rent a place of her own,
    even if she never wants to or needs to...

    EVERY WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ...

    something perfect to wear if the employer,
    or date of her dreams wants to see her in an hour...

    EVERY WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ..

    a youth she's content to leave behind....


    EVERY WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ...

    a past juicy enough that she's looking forward to
    retelling it in her old age....

    EVERY WOMAN SHOULD HAVE .....

    a set of screwdrivers, a cordless drill, and a black lace bra...


    EVERY WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ...

    one friend who always makes her laugh... and one who lets  her cry...


    EVERY WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ....

    a good piece of furniture not previously owned by anyone else in her family..


    EVERY WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ...

    eight matching plates, wine glasses with stems, and a recipe for a meal,
    that will make her guests feel honored...

    EVERY WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ...

    a feeling of control over her destiny...


    EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...

    how to fall in love without losing herself..


    EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...

    how to quit a job,
     break up with a lover, and confront a friend without; ruining the friendship...


    EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...

    when to try harder... and WHEN TO WALK AWAY...


    EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...

    that she can't change the length of her calves,
    the width of her hips, or the nature of her parents..

    EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...

    that her childhood may not have been perfect...but its over...


    EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...

    what she would and wouldn't do for love or more...


    EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...

    how to live alone... even if she doesn't like it...


    EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW..

    whom she can trust,
    whom she can't, and why she shouldn't take it personally...

    EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...

    where to go...
    be it to her best friend's kitchen table... or a charming inn in the woods... when her soul needs soothing...

    EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...

    what she can and can't accomplish in a day...
    a month...and a year...

    June 19

    The Famn Damily Reuion

    It was a good time seeing everyone again and getting caught up on thier lives and meeting their kids.  I am trying to post pictures but having problems with the internet at home, the boys feel it necessary to play live on Playstation everytime I get a chance to sit down and attempt the process, thus locking everyone up.  It was a small reunion compared to the ones I remember as child in Kansas with everyone.  It made me miss Grandma and Grandpa all the more.  I hope everyone keeps in touch and I miss you all!
    October 03

    Why I am the way I am

    Last night as I lay sleeping              "I see that you drank alcohol
    I died or so it seemed,                   and smoked and used drugs too,
    then I went to heaven                     fact is, you've done everything
    but only in my dream.                     a good person should never do.
    Up there St. Peter met me                 We can't have people like you up here
    standing at the pearly gates,             your life was full of sin."
    he said, "I must check your record
    please stand here and wait."              Then he read the last of my record
                                              took my hand and said, "Come in."
    He turned and said "Your record           He led me to the big boss and said
    is covered with terrible flaws.           "Take her in and treat her well,
    On earth I see you rallied                she used to work in the Title Industry;
    for every losing cause."                  she's done her time in hell."